Buying lingerie for your girlfriend sounds daunting. You don’t want to be the creepy guy checking out lace bras and thongs in Victoria’s Secret – the last thing you want to do is to appear shy and grabbing something lightning fast to avoid embarrassment and end up spoiling the experience you’ve planned so hard for. Here’s how to do it right.
Get the Right Size
This is a tricky one as most women may be self-conscious about how they look. If you get this wrong, nothing else will make it right. If you buy a size too big, she’ll probably feel insulted (she may think you call her fat). If it’s one size smaller, she’ll feel bad when trying to fit herself in because you make her think she’s actually smaller than what she is.
See, buying a bra isn’t just transactional, it is an emotional thing. Same goes to wearing it.
It has to feel good.
Ideally, you will have to do a quick check on the size she’s been wearing. Fret not, it’s on the labels stitched onto the bra. While you may not know, sizes can also vary from one brand to another – especially if the brands are from different parts of the world!
Know Her Style
Rummaging through her closet may not be a good idea but you could offer to do laundry. Offering to do laundry has an advantage because it gives you a picture of her lingerie pairing with what she will usually wear. Pick up those hints and make mental notes as you go through that pile of lingerie. You will find really good clues.
For the more simple, not fashion conscious guys whose idea of shopping is usually bulk purchasing plain grey t-shirts and jeans from your neighbourhood retail store, then understanding her style can be a little too much to ask for.
If that’s you, you can always focus on what you want as a gauge. A gift of lingerie can be seen selfish so you may want to present it well. What it means is that you need to find the perfect balance between what you want with what she usually wears.
If most of what she wears is plain single tone full cup bras, you can push the boundary a little with lace full cup bra. Not too daring yet not too conservative. But if you’re accelerating from plain boy shorts panty to a crotchless lace panty, you are definitely in trouble.